Hard to get

I got some feeling after knowing Taylor Swift dumped another boyfriend.

For women, Rebel is the character that makes you not able to get married. Why? Because Rebel overcomes Judge what is the husband character for women. Well, this explanation is made base on relation only, it is pure theoretical. What about the real life manifestation? What is the direct cause of the phenomenon (that Rebel girls have hard time getting married)?

Rebel against the character that represents husband, sometimes Rebel is not a bad thing for your marriage. Because it represents the ability to "control" husband or boyfriend. There is not much women can give men, in order to keep a men, you need to use some mind tricks. In another word, some level of Rebel can keep Judge in control, which is good. But dominant Rebel will make Judge not able to survive, and make you not able to find a man.

So what is the mindset of Rebel? Let me quote myself from the previous blog: When we describe a character from the surface, it can be very hard: Rebel people are trouble maker, but some of them are very good behaving; Rebel people are active and dramatic, but some of them play cool; Rebel is anti-tradition, but some of the Rebel people are very enthusiastic about traditional stuff. So what is Rebel? In the fundamental level, Rebel means release, express, in another word, show off. They are proud, want to be different, and hate to do what people ask them to do. Why are they modest sometimes? Because modesty is the thing they want to show. Why are they good at the traditional culture sometimes? Rebel doesn’t anti tradition, it anti mainstream. Tradition can be the abnormal.

From what I see, Rebel people are admirable in bad situations: They are lofty and they don’t yield to authority. When everybody bows down, they stand still. However in good times, you will see the problem that they are too irresponsible. In my book, I used Maximilien de Robespierre and Jean-Jacques Rousseau as examples of Rebel people. Rousseau’s mother passed away right after giving birth to him because his Talent and Money was so strong, Shield just couldn’t survive. Rebel person are free in heard, but they don’t take responsibilities. Once Rousseau had an enthusiastic affair with a French noblewoman, Sophie d’Houdetot, the love between them was so intense that he was inspired and wrote the great novel: Julie, or the New Heloise. At the same time, what about his own children? They were all sent to orphanage.

Usually the natural relation between men and women is: Men appreciate, women being appreciated. In this sense, women are using Talent (Rebel) mentality in love. (The difference between Gourmet and Rebel is: Gourmet is a same sex reaction and Rebel is an opposite sex reaction, so Rebel likes to interact with other people. In a way to see, releasing means seeking satisfaction, Rebel gain satisfaction over other people, Gourmet is a self-satisfied character. However, Gourmet againsts Authority, too, so Gourmet people hate regulation, too. It just doesn’t show. Having too much Gourmet can make people behave like Rebel.)

So Talent, no matter Rebel or Gourmet, is attention orientated. I want to show means I want other people’s attention. Wanting attention is a feature of children, and Talent represents children, because Talent is “what I born”.

“want to be appreciated”, “want to show” are not all about Rebel girls’ mentality. There is another factor: repulsion. Does it contradict the previous two factors? No. The three factors are a whole. “I love beauty, I want to be appreciated, and when someone that appreciated me appeared, I take an exclusive stand.” Why?

Well, refusing is a skill. Not because I don’t care, but for I would enjoy the standing out and spreading out of my personal charm that brought by the offish of the relation.

Refusing, and only refusing, can make me so different. It can make the refuser to feel the higher personal charm; it is the best attention among all kinds of attention.